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14 Monday Mar 2016

Posted by karenpayneoregon in GRS, Life, My journey, Post surgery, Sex

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So it has been 14 months since my gender reassignment surgery were over the past month or so something has been happening that my surgeon Marci Bowers warned me about which is as follows.

You may have times when the simple action of rubbing your private parts against clothing may cause arousal. Well when it first started in the past month it was not that bad and kind of nice, just walking along and things began to get aroused to a point but then got to the point I would have to stop walking else possibly cause a scene for having a full blown orgasm.

Now it’s been crazy over the past two weeks where I will be sitting at work and get to the point I can’t function as I once did because I am dealing with O’s and thinking of what I am doing which really both of these things conflict with each other.

Last Saturday night I attended an event at a Swinger’s club were the club is about both socializing and sex and got asked by several men about my O’s and said in some many words what I liked. I was asked if I was interested in having sex that night and said no, I am simply getting to know the place and people. And oh, by the way I have been experiencing orgasms sitting here talking to you. Two of the men at my table said, well that’s impressive as most woman your age have difficulties in bed having orgasms let alone having when while sitting down and moving their hips.

With that said, while writing the above I had to get up and re-position myself because of the sensations going on down there.

For anyone reading this who is going down the road of having genital reassignment surgery be aware this may very well happen to you too. Best to be forewarned then having this happen to you without prior notice it can happen.

For now I have to deal with this but sure hope things will settle down over time.

Can I motivate you?

05 Sunday Apr 2015

Posted by karenpayneoregon in GRS, Helping others

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I think about those who want to transition in regards to gender, for many it is a long and arduous journey while others it’s long but a rather smooth ride. Foremost is how one is economically wise, attitude of the community they reside in and truth in real friends and family members who are supportive to this journey.

Many argue that their financial status prohibits transitioning in a positive manner because of community, friends and family. They may think they are being held down and can’t move forward because of these barriers. For some that is oh so true but for others I think it’s lack of motivation (and not meant to be condescending here). Now how can I speak this way? Well I started my work career as a low level laborer who worked five days a week then on weekends blow my paycheck on woman, alcohol and drugs for about three years until I realized this was not wise and did not want to continue down this path as I could never transition or have a decent life. Rather than sit around feeling sorry for myself I picked myself up and learned a trade which provided a decent income. Marriage got in the way of transitioning as I simply wanted to deny my inner true self. Then another spark was lit and I went into the unknown of computer programming twenty five years ago, divorced and leading a decent life other than I was still a female trapped in a male body. Three years ago I began a journey that two months ago allowed me to pay out of pocket for my GRS (Gender Reassignment Surgery). So I feel I can say, get motivated and move forward if that is the path you need to travel.

With what I have learned gives me pause to think about how can I help others? My first step is to volunteer to meet with those going down the same path. Yesterday I made a commitment to myself in that if there is anyone who is going for GRS and has nobody there to support them I will offer coming to them for support for the first several days (including surgery date) or for the first few days they are out of the hospital to help them with whatever they need.  I will pay my own way in regards to airfare and hotel. I could careless if you are 20 years old or 70 years old, I will help.

So if you are out there and are in need of this support email me a paynekaren @ Comcast.net

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